I hate this. -.- This side effect when watching Asian dramas all the time. Like some… odd reflex when seeing a guy – a reflex you can’t control anymore because it already grew together with the synapses of your brain.
Guys. Boys. Men. Call them what you want: They’re still not the real problem here! Yeah, I know that women tend to say their biggest problems always involve the other gender BUT kdrama-lovers are a special species. Neither female nor male fans are to be reviewed as normal human beings. We’re different. We think different. Our brains work different. 😉
Unreasonably high expectations. It’s something that builds up so slowly and silently that we don’t even notice it until it’s too late. Like I said: It’s not the guys. It’s us. TT__TT
When watching Asian dramas/ movies/ shows and listening to that kind of music one is confronted with out-of-this-world perfection everyday. Idols who can sing, dance, play instruments, act, are funny, polite, talented, humble and true gentlemen. Women who don’t seem to grow older, are so cute that even I start to get a red face and have bodies other girls would kill for. Actors who are as hot as the sun, super hard working and always donating money for some kind of good purpose. I could go on for hours but I think you caught what I wanted to say.
It’s cool to watch all those great people and fan-girl over them but at the same time it’s a little burdensome to realize how very “none-special” oneself is. How normal and… well, compared to those idols and actors, untalented. But that’s okay as long as I can go back to that perfect drama world and at least imagine myself to be one of them. 😉
The true demon lies in the subconsciousness…
We don’t realize it at first but those said expectations start to build up as soon as one is addicted to the Asian drama world. I have the presumption that it’s beginning after getting the first second-lead-syndrome: The liking of perfection. Or perfect imperfection (which’s still perfection, by the way). We see guys who love clumsy, boyish, country pumpkin like girls as if they’re some breathtakingly beautiful princesses from another star.
Gentle guys who treat their beloved ones like they’re made of glass. Who’re always there for them no matter where and at which hour. Men who would not simply buy a birthday present but listen to their dreams and make one based on what they wish for. Boys who are protecting their women against everyone even though they’re pretty weak themselves. Who don’t mind getting hurt as long as the one they love is happy. Who will always be there, in the shadows, watching over them in a cute and not-at-all-creepy-stalker-like way. xDD
Funny guys who’ll take their girlfriends to places they’ve never been before and would probably have never gone to if not for their man. Places where one can experience once-in-a-lifetime situations and be happy and excited and thrilled. Guys who’ll make their women laugh and happy in every moment they get the chance to. Who are best friends you can talk to about your problems and lovers you just want to have in bed right the fu*k now all the time! Who’re so cute that you want to cuddle them the whole day long but who’re also so sexy that you can’t help but drool over them. ❤
Cool guys who not only protect their women in every situation and appear like a hero out of the blue but also save other peoples lives. Who are crazily smart and handsome and still clumsy and lovely in front of the one they love. Men who don’t look it but are so romantic that your hair will stand up! Who’d bring their girlfriend the stars from heaven if asked to. Who’ll fight for their love and never give up on it as long as they live. Men with pride and high values who’re willing to give up on everything just for this one person in their heart.
… Honestly, how can a normal girl remain her normal expectations when it comes to dating after all this unhealthy influence? TT__TT
But it’s not only the perfection of the person. As if comparing every possible dating possibility to those unreal kdrama-guys wouldn’t be enough already. -.-
It’s also the perfection of the moment. The first meeting. The first time you hold hands. The first kiss.
Real life is no movie. Kdrama-addicts know that but… we still wish for those super cringe-worthy moments where we meet our fated ones in such a memorable sweet way that we undoubtedly know he’s the one. Or where we get kissed “against our will” (yeah, is if), pressed on a wall, in the middle of being rained on, passionately and manly. Or gently, under a sea of cherry blossoms, with people staring at you but not caring, while holding hands and after he put a super cute self-made necklace around your neck. Or after getting in trouble and running away together, unknowingly holding hands and laughing your heart out, feeling that strange yet warm connection to each other and linking your eyes with such chemistry that one can almost see the sparks…
Etc. That could go on for days. The thing is that some people really did experience some of those or other dream-like situations with the love of their life that it makes you wonder: Is it actually possible? Can I have a love life like those drama-characters? Can I get a man like that? Can I be like one of those girls?
Well, in my case: Nope. I’m not the least bit like Korean women so – obviously – I won’t get a man like that. But hey, maybe- … there, you see? -.- I started dreaming again! In the middle of the day! Hoping for something that was written and filmed by someone. -.- Urgh, it’s hopeless. How am I ever going to find a boyfriend when my mind won’t give way to anyone worse than a Ji Chang Wook, Song Joong Ki, Lee Jong Suk or Ok Taecyeon in the middle of a cherry blossom sea with a couple ring in his hand? Duh…
Aaah, and just when you think it can’t get any creepier (Because yes, their handsomeness sometimes creeps me the fu** out!) THIS shows up! Just kill me with your beauty, why don’t you? -.-
They can be really disturbing, make you angry and frustrated. Sometimes, they happen to be totally awkward and weird. And another time they’re absolutely to die for. Most of us wait for them dearly in every drama we happen to watch – the kisses.
But kiss is not kiss. There’s a large range of different kissing styles in many different dramas. I’m going to talk about the most famous ones here.
Awkward Kiss: She stands there like a frozen statue of herself without any movement visible and her eyes opened as big as a plate. He barely touches her lips and seems like he forces himself to go that far. I always wonder if they even feel anything or if both of them just like the “idea” of kissing each other. Seriously, I really hate those wanna-be kisses! No passion whatsoever. Okay, these two aren’t exactly guy and woman (they’re both girls) but it’s the perfect example for the wall-kiss:
Accidental Kiss: Aigoo~ those “unfortunate” coincidences when the female lead happens to fall directly on the male leads lips (or they run into each other if that’s what you prefer)! Let’s ignore the fact that this is almost impossible: To actually fall on someone with your whole weight – no matter how skinny you may be – does HURT! There are bones colliding – it should bleed like HELL! Maybe even crash a few of your teeth. Lips exploding with red human juice! But well, they kissed each other accidentally – that’s the bigger problem here. Of course, stupid me! -.-
Forced Kiss: Many female leads aren’t able to protect themselves properly because they got the strength of a peace of paper flying in the wind – as a result they get kissed by force against their will. And of course they never go to the police afterwards since the guy’s pretty handsome and besides the fact that he just sexually assaulted her for which he could go into prison, he is actually a pretty nice character. … Yeah… Seriously, if I really don’t want to kiss that guy I’d just kick him between the legs. Done!
Best example I could think of: Me too, Flower! (What kinda title for a drama is that anyway?!):
Now… that’s definitely sexual assault is what it is! I’d say call for the police but well… she IS the police… so I guess she should be able to defend herself against some horny hoodlum.
Eating Kiss: Sometimes – mostly in taiwanese/chinese dramas – the main leads happen to really kiss each other. But even if you get excited at first: After a few moments you realize that something’s a little bit bothering you. Did this romantic drama just turn into a horror movie? Are they kissing each other or trying to eat their partner? You don’t know – and you don’t really want to know…
I’m sorry. I’ve quite some kissing scenes in mind but I can’t remember which drama it was… forgive me! ^^”
Real Kiss: Thankfully some drama directors take a pity on their viewers and give us the joy of a pretty well acted kiss scene. Most of them happen to be at the end of the drama and display the passion and love the main couple fought for in around sixteen episodes. I’m always relieved when I finally see them. =)
All in all and even though some kissing styles might not be to our taste they do make the dramas more interesting and unique. And let’s be honest: Without those awkward moments it wouldn’t be as funny as it is, right?! ^^