Category Archives: Unreasonably High Expectations
I hate this. -.- This side effect when watching Asian dramas all the time. Like some… odd reflex when seeing a guy – a reflex you can’t control anymore because it already grew together with the synapses of your brain.
Guys. Boys. Men. Call them what you want: They’re still not the real problem here! Yeah, I know that women tend to say their biggest problems always involve the other gender BUT kdrama-lovers are a special species. Neither female nor male fans are to be reviewed as normal human beings. We’re different. We think different. Our brains work different. 😉
Unreasonably high expectations. It’s something that builds up so slowly and silently that we don’t even notice it until it’s too late. Like I said: It’s not the guys. It’s us. TT__TT
When watching Asian dramas/ movies/ shows and listening to that kind of music one is confronted with out-of-this-world perfection everyday. Idols who can sing, dance, play instruments, act, are funny, polite, talented, humble and true gentlemen. Women who don’t seem to grow older, are so cute that even I start to get a red face and have bodies other girls would kill for. Actors who are as hot as the sun, super hard working and always donating money for some kind of good purpose. I could go on for hours but I think you caught what I wanted to say.
It’s cool to watch all those great people and fan-girl over them but at the same time it’s a little burdensome to realize how very “none-special” oneself is. How normal and… well, compared to those idols and actors, untalented. But that’s okay as long as I can go back to that perfect drama world and at least imagine myself to be one of them. 😉
The true demon lies in the subconsciousness…
We don’t realize it at first but those said expectations start to build up as soon as one is addicted to the Asian drama world. I have the presumption that it’s beginning after getting the first second-lead-syndrome: The liking of perfection. Or perfect imperfection (which’s still perfection, by the way). We see guys who love clumsy, boyish, country pumpkin like girls as if they’re some breathtakingly beautiful princesses from another star.
Gentle guys who treat their beloved ones like they’re made of glass. Who’re always there for them no matter where and at which hour. Men who would not simply buy a birthday present but listen to their dreams and make one based on what they wish for. Boys who are protecting their women against everyone even though they’re pretty weak themselves. Who don’t mind getting hurt as long as the one they love is happy. Who will always be there, in the shadows, watching over them in a cute and not-at-all-creepy-stalker-like way. xDD
Funny guys who’ll take their girlfriends to places they’ve never been before and would probably have never gone to if not for their man. Places where one can experience once-in-a-lifetime situations and be happy and excited and thrilled. Guys who’ll make their women laugh and happy in every moment they get the chance to. Who are best friends you can talk to about your problems and lovers you just want to have in bed right the fu*k now all the time! Who’re so cute that you want to cuddle them the whole day long but who’re also so sexy that you can’t help but drool over them. ❤
Cool guys who not only protect their women in every situation and appear like a hero out of the blue but also save other peoples lives. Who are crazily smart and handsome and still clumsy and lovely in front of the one they love. Men who don’t look it but are so romantic that your hair will stand up! Who’d bring their girlfriend the stars from heaven if asked to. Who’ll fight for their love and never give up on it as long as they live. Men with pride and high values who’re willing to give up on everything just for this one person in their heart.
… Honestly, how can a normal girl remain her normal expectations when it comes to dating after all this unhealthy influence? TT__TT
But it’s not only the perfection of the person. As if comparing every possible dating possibility to those unreal kdrama-guys wouldn’t be enough already. -.-
It’s also the perfection of the moment. The first meeting. The first time you hold hands. The first kiss.
Real life is no movie. Kdrama-addicts know that but… we still wish for those super cringe-worthy moments where we meet our fated ones in such a memorable sweet way that we undoubtedly know he’s the one. Or where we get kissed “against our will” (yeah, is if), pressed on a wall, in the middle of being rained on, passionately and manly. Or gently, under a sea of cherry blossoms, with people staring at you but not caring, while holding hands and after he put a super cute self-made necklace around your neck. Or after getting in trouble and running away together, unknowingly holding hands and laughing your heart out, feeling that strange yet warm connection to each other and linking your eyes with such chemistry that one can almost see the sparks…
Etc. That could go on for days. The thing is that some people really did experience some of those or other dream-like situations with the love of their life that it makes you wonder: Is it actually possible? Can I have a love life like those drama-characters? Can I get a man like that? Can I be like one of those girls?
Well, in my case: Nope. I’m not the least bit like Korean women so – obviously – I won’t get a man like that. But hey, maybe- … there, you see? -.- I started dreaming again! In the middle of the day! Hoping for something that was written and filmed by someone. -.- Urgh, it’s hopeless. How am I ever going to find a boyfriend when my mind won’t give way to anyone worse than a Ji Chang Wook, Song Joong Ki, Lee Jong Suk or Ok Taecyeon in the middle of a cherry blossom sea with a couple ring in his hand? Duh…
Aaah, and just when you think it can’t get any creepier (Because yes, their handsomeness sometimes creeps me the fu** out!) THIS shows up! Just kill me with your beauty, why don’t you? -.-